Blooming Buds

 

Life is not a race or a competition. We have only one life. So live it to the fullest & allow others too. The most fascinating & amazing part of human life is his/her childhood. Experiences & lessons from childhood make him/her the adult we see later on. Your child is not an estranged wealth (paraya dhan) or old age support system (budhape ki lathi). He/she is not your means to pursue your dreams either. Teach him/her to be a human being. Spend your quality time with him/her for that instead of running behind making his/her life secured. Your time is the most priceless thing which you can gift your kid. Allow him/her to fall and stand up by himself/herself. Your role as a parent is just to make sure that he/she stands up after that fall. That is the best you can do. Just nurture him/her till he/she becomes a responsible adult. Treat your child as a separate individual. Your child is like a creeper plant. He/she just needs support to grow. But the way you support, will be the nature of an adult in him/her.

Let him/her enjoy his/her childhood playing & socializing thereby learning a lot of lessons himself/herself which will help him/her in future. Let him/her be naughty. As a parent, you too sit back and enjoy those moments. Those moments would be gone as they grow up and long before you realize it. Meantime you can find out their interest in the time you spend with them and try to develop that talent without feeling them pressurized. Parents are always right. They choose the right most and best thing for their kid. But my parents went wrong for their kid. Even few of my friend’s parents have gone wrong. So please don’t do that same mistake with your kid. Don’t force them too much on something even if it’s their interest.  Forcing them too much might create aversion rather than a passion. He/she will learn foreign language, programming etc. in later phase of his/her life which he/she has to anyways learn to shape up his/her profession. But building a human being is not possible once he/she grows up. If it is a son teach him to respect others especially woman/girls so that he would not only commit mistakes, but also makes sure others too don’t. And if it is a girl educate her & train her in self defense skills like Karate, Tae Kwon Do etc. Teach him/her to be a compassionate, loving, caring & an empathetic human being. Our world is running short of human beings, not professionals. Punish them when they are wrong or when they behave wrong. But punishment also should be in such a way to make them realize what they did was wrong. Punishment should not be a means to vent out your anger & frustration.