I
was thinking to write down this from long time, especially since SSR’s death.
All on social media are talking, discussing, empathizing about his death &
depression. But how many of you have supported your family/friends when they
are truly in need.
EQ
of each person is different from other. The moment/ instance that break you
down may not be a reason of worry at all for the other. Once something happens,
people start bothering you with a set of “DO’s” & “Don’ts”. They don’t even
bother to think about your emotional side. Depression is not something which
develops in a day or two. It is a continuous process. It keeps adding up to
your underlying problem. When people are not able to cope up with the changes
or setbacks they will have to seek medical help or some may even end up taking
up their life.
Just
like other body illness, mental illness also should be talked of & taken
care of. It should also be rectified just like you seek help in rectifying
other body illness. Unlike physical ailment, mental ailment needs support from
others. It is the love & care of people around them cures.
I
have many friends from different stages of life like school, college, marriage,
work etc. But there are only few (I can count using my hands & can say it
is less than even 10) to who I’m close to. I’m not a person to talk about SSR’s
death/depression because I don’t know him personally. But I can explain very
well in my case.
Phase
1 : Childhood
I
was grown up in a middle class joint family. Children learn a lot of things
from the people around them. Their actions, words etc plays a significant role
in character formation of a child. I saw elders around me respect people based
on their financial status, not by their deeds. We were never appreciated for
small good things which we did. Instead were given severe punishments for a
small mistake. There was only jealousy & cunningness around.
Phase
2 : School & College Life
I
was above average student at studies when at school. Other than studies, I used
to be active in cultural as well as sports too. I was popular among students
& teachers. My parents, teachers and many well-wishers had a great
expectation on my class 10 board exams. But my marks were very much low than
what I expected or others expected from me. And this was just beginning of my
failures. This continued till graduation that I lost my self confidence. There
was mental breakdown. I became silent as well as lost interest in life. I wanted
to stay alone all-time. But here at this stage there were few friends who
brought me back to normal life.
Phase
3 : Career & Post Marriage Life
Till
date I have been juggling with my career. I have not got an opportunity wherein
either I can use my academic skills or my personal skill to the fullest. I got
several setbacks one after the other. But I don’t want to list it here. Because
of which I too was on the verge of depression. But I didn’t seek any medical
help because there was a person who supported me and because of whom I’m back
to my normal life today.
But
all these have changed my outlook towards life. Enjoy your life to the fullest
when you have it in your hand. You never know what would happen tomorrow. It
has also changed my character a lot. For those who don’t know me well I’m
arrogant, short tempered person. But I love the way I’m. So there is a story
behind every person. Try to accept him/her the way he/she is rather than being
judgemental. May be you can influence him/her for a positive change.
So
imagine a pressure a celebrity like SSR would have faced. Also it is with his
own hard work, passion & ability he made a place for himself in Bollywood.
Still he couldn’t survive. I agree suicide is not a solution to this. But can
anyone imagine what would have he been going through to take such a drastic
step.