A Glimpse Through The Life Of A Sailor Queen- Part 2

Nowadays whenever or wherever we talk about, it finally ends talking about covid-19 or lockdown. Due to which many of us have lost their jobs. Many are stuck somewhere far from their hometown/family. Some of our dear ones have lost lives either. If we talk about the same on a large scale, it’s about our economy coming down, unemployment etc. Even it had an effect on my job either. But still I’m here to discuss about the positive side of which I got to experience which I never thought would happen rather than in old age.

As I have mentioned in my previous blog and as the title says, I’m also a sailor queen. And I’m really proud of that. It has made me where and what I’m today. A tough & independent woman. In India lockdown was declared by March end. My sailor was about to join ship by March first week. But he couldn’t as lockdown started in various parts of the world long before India declared. So he couldn’t fly to join.

He came by December 2019. So basically we both were together for the entire lockdown. In a normal situation, if he is here, we would go for some trip(At least one in a month). But due to this lockdown we were stuck in our flat nothing to do. And that’s how we started our experiments in cooking especially non-veg which we usually don’t cook. We spent lots of time and short listing a recipe and once it didn’t turn out the way we wanted, we started making small changes through the recipe and finally came out with the way we wanted it to be.

Another positive effect of this pandemic is that we got chances to revive the relations with our cousins & dear ones including friends through regular video calls & audio calls. We had 3-4 hours long video calls at times. It started with no topic to discuss rather than the pandemic, but later on started with boasting of cooking skills. So each member of that particular video call started to experiment with another recipe so that he/ she can flaunt the cooking skills. Then discussions went on our past trips and planning on future trips together. There were discussions on book read/ art or creativity etc. So even if we had nothing in common (other than the pandemic crisis), we ended up talking about a lot and lot and thus rising a ray of hope in other person.

Apart from this, during lock-down since maid was also not there, we started sharing all the household chores. From cooking, cleaning utensils, washing & drying clothes, sweeping etc we started sharing all the jobs. It was very much fun doing it together. There were days when I got completely rest from all the household jobs. I just had to eat, sleep & watch TV or listen to music or continue with my embroidery or painting.

And moreover, even when we had nothing to do in particular, we tried to stick to a timetable especially on food timings & sleep timings. Before the pandemic everyone was busy. But this time, there was nothing that we could do in hurry. So we enjoyed every moment being together. It brought many people closer. It brought humanity back. It taught us, even when human have control on this earth, there are times when even human have to just sit back and wait for the situation to become favorable. It taught us or made us realize that there are things which can be also beyond our control or rather say, there is some super natural power which all controls or overpowers human power.

 

A Glimpse Through The Life Of A Sailor Queen

Every coin has two sides. Similarly even a sailor queen’s life has also two sides. Her entire life is divided in two halves. One half is when the sailor is around and one half is when sailor is on his duty. Again each half comes with its own pros & cons.

Let me first explain the half which is why she is called a “Sailor Queen”.  A Queen is not an ordinary woman. She needs to be independent, loving, thoughtful, decision maker & strong. She should be a leader as well as a manager too. So in her sailor’s absence she is in charge of everything. Let it be grocery shopping, bill payments or any other household related matters. You can’t contact him whenever you feel like speaking to him. You have to wait for his call/ mail to share your feelings. Even in cases of emergencies, she has to take a stand for herself or her family. Let it be a moment of joy/sorrow, she would be definitely missing her man. He misses birthdays, anniversaries, festivals etc and many such important dates & occasions like marriages, get together etc. She has to represent on behalf of him. Even in midst of thousand people, you will feel all alone. All around you just seem like strangers to you. But nobody in this world will understand what you are going through. Even your mom would ask you that you married him knowing all this right, and then what’s the point crying now. How can I ever make understand that I’m not crying for the decision of marrying him, it is just that I can’t stop missing him. If this is a question from your own mom, what can you expect from others. So she has to manage a smile and answer all unnecessary questions. There are many questions which I have faced like

1.  If you have to remain single for half of the year, then why did you marry?
2.  If he earns so much, then what is the purpose of you going for a job?
3.   You have come alone this time as well?

Not only this there are moments when you just feel to hold his hands and go for a long night walks, when you are damn upset and you very much miss that tight hug which makes you forget everything or gives an assurance that I’m on your side. There are moments wherein you just feel why this earth doesn’t split and you just get vanished just like what happened with Sita in Ramayana. Remember all these moments are just flushed out in tears or sometimes in anger or even with a smile. And what about those scary nights that I get up in the middle of the night? It can be a bad dream or it can be the loud noise due to the bad weather. You get scared even more when you realize that you are all alone in that dark room. I wish in those moments, if he had been here, he would put me back to sleep assuring that I’m safe.  I hope you got a glimpse of a life of a sailor queen.

Now let me take you to the other side of the coin. The bright side of the coin. When he is around there would be so many WOW moments which you would be cherishing in his absence and gives you the drive to move on when you are on the other side of the coin. Neither my sailor nor I are romantic. But we make use of every second we are together. Some of my favorite moments include long night conversations (Gossips), cooking & having every meal together, watching movie or any program of either one’s choice together (It can be his favorite football club match or my daily Hindi soaps, long shopping hours (whether it is to buy grocery or to buy just a pair of jeans or to buy a pair of kurti), evening green tea sessions, exercising /gym sessions, fights (Petty fights, fun fights or even serious ones), going to parks & sitting there for hours munching on peanuts, our numerous trips (Includes both planned as well as unplanned) and the list goes on. Also you don’t need a plumber or mechanic or electrician when he is around. Also he is the person who has solution to all my problems.