When I heard the flapping of wings, I never thought it would be the tiny
little sparrows. There were two of them. I have loved them from my childhood.
They are so tiny & beautiful. I always wanted to pet them and happened to
share this with Dillu. He smiled and asked how would you feel, if someone loves
you so much and lock you in a room. That was enough for me to change. Since
then, for few minutes I watch them flying and all their activities every
morning after my workout sessions until my body cools down.
When I moved the curtains, they got scared and were trying to fly away. But the window was more than half closed. I love to keep my windows open always, but the pigeons make the place dirty and I have allergies as well. So, these tiny cute creatures were stuck in the middle of window panes and mosquito net which we have installed. I wanted to open the window a little wider, so that they can fly out into open sky. I refrained from doing so because for opening windows, I must open the mosquito nets and if I do that it will get more scared and I might get hurt. Also, instead of flying out, it might fly into our flat. I pulled the curtains aside, and moved a bit far so that they can escape themselves. One of the birds, flew away within a minute, leaving the other one to struggle alone. The second one took another 2 minutes to find its way. When the birds were together, they had companion even if it is their bad time. But when one bird flew away, the other might have got even more scared, thinking it must fight alone now. That may be the reason that it took more time for the second bird to escape.
This put me in a deep thought. Assume two people are going through some trauma. One person may come out of it quickly or find a way of relief. But the other might take more time to either come out or succumb to that incident. The emotional intelligence quotient is never the same for any two individuals. The way a person deals with the situations, mishaps etc would differ from one another. So never ever tend to compare one another. We never know what he/she is going through or have gone through. If you are really worried about a particular person, give them your shoulder for them to lie upon, no taunts/comparison/advices unless thy ask for it.
Fear can overpower your thinking ability leading you to get more trapped. It is easier said than done. But, If you can win over fear, then you have got the control of the situation which will thus lead to solution as well.